Growing Up Can Lead To Unwanted Attention

This is a familiar story, when you are younger and more grown up and mature than the other kids you get put to the back of the room with the adults. 

All the other kids run to the front off the room looking for cake and toys at parties and stuff and push you off to the back because the are less mature and want all the toys and fun first.

The other kids who are more grown up can wait their turn and they become the "babysitter" of the crowd by letting all the other kids get their turn first.

The more mature kid ends up assuming the teacher or parental role and associates with the adults.

Later in life this can lead to unwanted attention.

This is what I have discovered, many of those kids may have been hyperactive and had attention deficit disorder and were jealous of the more mature kid, putting them to the back of the room and thinking they were the "runt" and the "picked on" kid when they were actually with the adults.

The other thing is the more grown up kid may have been more active and dating when younger and the other kids not "sexually aware" as they were less mature and saw the distance between the two as them being a "loser" when it was actually more mature sexuality like with gifted kids who are more grown up as children, the other kids saw them as "pushed to the bottom" or "back of the room" when they were actually more grown up and had girlfriends or boyfriends at a younger age and weren't interested in "running to the front" for all the cake and toys.

As we approach 45 this December these are things we need to consider as we reach young adulthood or "middle age" together this year with each other, that's age 45-65.

 

 When you were little the other kids saw you as being picked on and out of the crowd but in reality you were actually dating and stuff at an early age and not interested.

The other kids who were less mature saw you as a loser, follower or bottom of the crowd when in reality you were just standing with the adults.

Now that we approach 45 together for us all the dating, university, music, sports and soccer drafts are all years behind us and now we are back home with our own houses, apartments etc. and have made a life for ourselves.

The other kids who were less mature and didn't continue with their education or sports, music etc. are in a less fortunate circumstance today which can lead to unwanted attention for you.

Many of these kids at 45 see you as a loser or follower from when you were younger and when they see you in a new adult setting of your own...like at parties and stuff when you were younger they may think it's for them.

As we get into our middle years at 45 the other kids may have not planned for being this age and never finished all their younger activities while you did, this may leave them looking for you to entertain them like when you were kids at parties while you have already finished all that and grew up.

You don't need that when you are 45 and have moved on and made a life, the other kids never did that and didn't get to do all those things which leave them looking for fun and activities when they are the same age but less mature because they never did anything like you did.

When they see you with all your things at 45 they may think it's like a toy for them and that you have setup on your own like a "playroom" like from when you were kids at parties which is actually just your house.

They may associate this with you and them at the party and think that you are "trying to communicate" with them to get their attention at 45 by setting this up as a "loser" from when you are younger and they may think you are trying to get them to come over, when it is not actually for them.

Then they try to "push you to the bottom or back of the room" in your own house that they see as a party place like when you were kids saying you are doing that for them to have friends, then they give you unwanted attention and make fun of you trying to use your adult stuff for a party.

Like they think you are replacing what the teacher had setup for them as a kid with you at the back so they can come over again...thinking you are desperate when it is actually just your house and they are unwanted.

That is something bad to watch out for in your middle years at 45 as you change and do less activities and start to relax and make a regular home, other kids didn't do that and may think you are doing that for attention and recreating your childhood with the adults to get them to come over...at that age they may be looking for something to do and think that's what you are saying - like they imagine that you are trying to send them a secret message to come over.

Then they try to push you to the back of the room, which is extreme unwanted attention, in your own home and use you stuff like your swimming pool without you while you sit at the back alone...they see you as their babysitter and a loser who buys a pool to get friends.

In reality, the pool was just for you and all you are interested in is sitting beside it, getting a tan and reading a book by yourself.

When they see that and you go out running or something they think that you are a loser looking for their attention which is just in their imagination and they start "talking about you as an adult" saying you are doing that which must be some kind of ADD or handicap by the time they reach 45.

That can lead to extreme unwanted attention for you at 45 at your new home, you just want to relax by the pool and read a book but the other kids from when you were younger want it as a toy like at parties from when they knew you as a kid.

Never let these people into your home, they will start fighting with you and try and use you home like a toy and then try to push you to the bottom of the crowd calling you a loser - pathetic behavior at 45 or over.

For the mature kid when they reach 45 an issue they may have is they are the head of the house now and may have feelings of looking for someone to talk to when sitting around the house about their activities because they are used to having the teachers or parents with them as a kid at the back of the room, this can be a hard adjustment for them because those people are gone now and they have to be grown up by themselves, that can lead to a sense of lonesomeness and looking for approval of their adult activities when they live alone at 45 but there is no one there now.

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